I never wanted to be divorced. I have had people ask me to marry them, but I knew it would not last. I never tried to force someone to marry be by getting pregnant or ultimatums. I have not met the person who is right for me yet.
Even more than divorce, I never wanted to be a single mom. I felt it would not be good for me and even more so for the children. None of my partners have been father material so I never made them one.
I feel that children do better growing up in a stable home with two parents. However I know one can not always predict if a relationship will work out and I have the utmost respect for women who are raising children on their own. It can not be easy. I feel good knowing I did not bring children into this world who would end up with difficulties because of a failed marriage or relationship. I have been responsible in that aspect of my life. I take relationships seriously, but I would have taken parenthood even more seriously. So while my life my be in upheaval at the current moment, the one thing I did right was to judge whether or not my partners were parent material and I did not become a single parent.